The moment is here. You’ve met someone good enough to convince you that permanently deleting Tinder is a good idea. She’s funny. She’s charming. She’s beautiful. She’s smart enough to talk circles around you—and eloquently, at that. Yes, you’re officially ready to get engaged.

Pulling the trigger on a proposal is likely the most significant decision you’ll have made in your life until this point. For the first time, you’re truly committing to something—in this case, someone—other than yourself. And that changes a man, whether it’s a palpably (hey, you’re hitting the gym more often!), or more subtly (would you look at that… you’re more of a team player now!). So here are the biggest ways you will find yourself inexorably changed after you’ve slid the ringer on her finger. And please, after you pop the question, make sure you and your partner have these ten pre-marriage conversations.