When I started blogging almost 3 years ago, I didn’t set out to become the Carrie Bradshaw of divorce, but apparently word around town is that this should be my new nickname. Kind of fitting then that at last night’s charity event, I am the one who won the “Sex in the City” basket, which included a cute pair of golden, glittery shoes that I’m dying to wear some day soon. But what is really funny is to see people’s reaction when they learn something about me that wasn’t on any Facebook post, tweet or blog. They start to wonder if they missed one of my updates, and this is when I get to clue them in that not everything goes online.
Despite what you might see on the internet, no one leads a completely charmed life. We all have our crosses to bear, and not everyone needs to know about this stuff– that is what your inner circle is for, and these should be people that can maintain your secrets. Once you have worked through the hardship, by all means share the good news with everyone, but try to fly under the radar with your crap. Filter your newsfeed so it comes out like purified water.
Personally over the years, I grew tired of all the bad news I would hear all day at work, only to come home to more bad news on tv, and these days it really has gotten worse. A few years ago I decided not to add to this negativity, and I wish everyone would do their part to do the same. There are enough sad stories out there. What we all need is a little inspiration, a reason to keep going and maintain some hope in a brighter future. Apparently, I am not alone in this line of thinking, and for those wanting a quick read with some tips on how to develop a more positive attitude, I highly recommend Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book, Inspiration.
Ever since I can remember I always heard people talk about karma, but it is only through the years that I’ve really come to understand what this means. We really do reap what we sow, and everything is not always as it seems. As a young attorney, I was so eager to fight for justice and make sure that the truth prevailed in court. Only over time did I learn that not all battles can be won inside a courtroom, and there may be other forces at work that I don’t know about. In my 20’s I stupidly believed I had the power to make things right. It is only now in recent years that I humbly realize I can’t control anything other than my own actions, and it is with this in mind that I’ve come to understand, discretion really is the better part of valor.