When I first got divorced a friend told me that I would soon find myself swimming in shark infested waters. I confidently responded, “lucky for me I’m a really good swimmer.” We were both right– I found lots of sharks over the last six years, and I proved to be a great swimmer. But sometimes people can get so caught up in the dating game, that I worry whether they will miss out on the right opportunity when it comes along because they are just so into the games. If you are having fun with the game, how do you know when it is time to quit?

The consensus among those I have polled is that you know it’s time to quit when you find the one that makes you want to stop playing the game. When you know the rules and choose to break them anyway; when you know how to play it safe and instead decide to go out on a limb; when you find that rock that grounds you, and the option to explore alternatives becomes totally unappealing.

Hold on to those rocks- they are rare.