Stop torturing yourself– who knows why someone is not emotionally available?  It’s not your problem to fix.  Natalie Lue, who is the author of “Mr. Unavailable & the Fallback Girl” sums it all up so perfectly in this video.  Gosh, I wish I’d seen this video 8 years ago!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pGTv4yPaLaY&feature=player_embedded